OBSESSED BOYFRIEND

 Hello Teebeelicious, 

I read your blog religiously and I want to say kudos to a job well done. Also, don't keep us starving for stories. *wink*

Anyways, I am in a situation and I need advice concerning my relationship. 

Early last year, I was visiting a friend when another friend of his (who also was visiting) complained about his boyfriend's obessive and clingy behavior.  We advised him to walk out of the relationship because from all indications, it was getting toxic and out of hand. 

Fast forward to March this year. I met a guy through a mutual friend and we started to date. Barely three months together, I began to notice his emotional attachment to his ex. He would always check what he's doing on social media and be calling people to ask them about what his ex is doing with his new boyfriend and all that. On several occasions I've seen him cry over their break up.. something that happened over a year ago. 

One day, I saw him looking at the guys Instagram photos (as usual)  and for the first time, I was curious to know exactly who this person was and what he looked like.  Lo and behold, it was the same guy who i met at my friends that complained about his boyfriend's obessive behavior. 

 Now, the problem is, no Matter how I try to talk to my boyfriend about his behavior, he would deny that he doesn't love his ex anymore. 

Please what do I do? I really like him but this particular behavior is making me want to walk away. Also, I got in touch with his ex and he too is advising me to run away because according to him, during their relationship, the guy was stalking him, hacking into his social media accounts to see who he was chatting with and anytime he called him out or threaten to walk out of the relationship if he doesn't change, he would weep his eyes out and beg. 

Please what do I do?  He keeps begging I should not leave him but it's clear his obsession is part of him. 

By worried boyfriend